celebrate
Being a psychic medium, my personal and professional life are very intertwined. I get asked a lot how I honor and connect to my own passed loved ones. The answer is simple, I still love them just the same because they are still with me. I live my life, as if they were still physically here with us - because spiritually they are. In my house we honor every birthday, anniversary, and milestone just as we would if they were still physically here.
Quality time is big in my family. Both my mother and father's sides of the family are large. I am used to spending birthdays, holidays, etc together. It is no different for my ancestors.
January 26th my maternal grandmother would have celebrated her 100th birthday. She passed away in 2005, but we still choose to celebrate her birthday. As a medium, I connect with her and ask her what she would like - but you can do the same for your loved ones. Often times she just requests I spend time with family and have cake and ice cream. I always take the day off to honor her memory. On your loved one's birthdays or anniversary - you can celebrate them big or small. I can tell you their souls will be happy with the intentions you put into it - you don't always have to spend a ton of money.
This year we decorated a bit for her 100th, got a cake and ice cream, and sang her happy birthday. Her soul was present and was more than appreciative - we could feel her with us. Earlier in the day I got a tattoo to honor her (seen in another post) and we visited the cemetery and set flowers on her grave. She loved flowers. That is what she wanted. Us to spend time together. Those small intentions mean the most to her.
**don’t worry, we just left the flowers not the vase - that was just for picture purposes ;)
We set aside a piece of the cake for her and my other ancestors. While they don't come eat it literally, it is an energy exchange. They need energy still to be able to communicate to us and to heal their Soul. Offerings don't always have to be food. They can be when you think of them, talk to them, sing a song, write something for them, look at pictures, etc. But I can say, it makes a difference to their Souls and yours.
It's an energy exchange and I promise when you start to give them more time, love, and attention-- they will do the same and you'll see the signs more. The relationships are still there. They want to communicate and miss and love you just as much as you do them. It's about learning how to do that and interpret their messages--- knowing what to look for and giving them something in return. The relationships are still about give and take just like here on Earth. Like that saying, it works both ways.
I encourage the next time your loved ones birthday or anniversary of passing comes, celebrate for your passed loved ones. Get the balloons, decorations, etc. Their favorite candy bar, or chips, or their favorite drink.. or order them a cake or meal too. And then just have it with you. Drink or eat it yourself, set it by their picture, do whatever you want with it. Then have a conversation with them, like they're right there with you--- because they are. Tell them about your day- the good/the bad. Tell them about your life, your kids. Ask them for a sign and be specific. And then.. TRUST. Trust it will come and then when it does, thank them! It's not silly and it's not wishful thinking to have them celebrate with you. You might just be surprised at how it creates space for them to send a sign back!
